“Whatever happened to chivalry?”
“What ever happened to good guys and gentlemen in this world?”
“Is your boyfriend loyal?”
“Wow, all men can really be shallow, aren’t they?”
Seeing and hearing all these types of questions when it comes to men, sometimes I realize some women have too much standards to uphold. I mean, yes, at our generation today many are succumbed to temptation and lust but sometimes don’t we realize that maybe it’s our fault? I mean maybe most of you guys didn’t realize but women nowadays dress as if they were hookers while they are hanging out with their girlfriends and maybe its just very short shorts sometimes but skin is skin, The more we show, the more imprudence we invite to our world.
But before you say anything else, I honestly believe in women empowerment and being comfortable in your own skin. Heck, I always had skin asthma and allergies were a norm to me yet I show some skin here and there. And I believe that feminism is great belief to uphold for EQUALITY of both men and women. But the standards we put up on perfect men and relationships are way too high.
And I know so many of you will disagree with past experiences or just plain different point of views, I still want to give a point of defense to men:
- Not all men are jerks and perverts
I get that sometimes they really are at fault here and their weird instinct just destroys it all, but not all men are like that. I’ve seen most of my guy friends who are decent enough just to take a girl home after a night out with no strings attached. Heck, they are even just friends up until now and no extra feelings involved whatsoever. Just good ol’ friendship between them. And ladies, if you really know them, sometimes you can really see that they are genuine.
2. Respect? Be the cause of it
If you were really a decent girl of any sort, you wouldn’t want to dress up like some hooker at the back of the club. At least dress the way your man (or any man who loves/cares enough for you, in that matter) wants you to dress up or be the judge of whatever makes you comfortable, you are your own woman after all! Just try not to be too flashy. I know that sometimes the media and society today can over-sexualize woman’s standards today but honey, BE YOUR OWN WOMAN. Just because crop tops and short shorts are in, doesn’t mean you have to follow a trend.
Not only that, but maybe have a bit more of respect for yourself. You may have experienced being left by one guy or you still haven’t found the guy you were looking for,but i Continue reading “Defense for Men: An Unpopular Opinion for Men’s Standards Today”